Wait a minute sweets, i have news for you IT'S WORTH THE WAIT!!! I have decided to allow my Father plan my love story. He is the very BEST match maker. I can relate to my Papi and Gmum. I decided to LET GO and LET GOD.
There are times i thought i could fix "UP" myself a man. And where did that leave me with? -NOTHING-. No they were not bad guys and all, but just not the one for me. Yea! You asking, "How do you know that?". Well at 22, God has blessed me with beautiful wisdom, not of this earth but of Heaven. (1 Corinthians 2:7,13). Girlllll you need to have yourself some STANDARDS! You can't just settle for any Billy, Tom, Mandy or Josh that comes along. And those standards will help the
If a guy walks up to me, telling me how we gotta "do it" (sex) to 'feeeeel' the love, bro please STEP!!! My JESUS "died" for me but He ain't asking to "do it"!!! "Do you love Jesus?" "Yes Joann i'm a believer, a Christian, i love Jesus". And i'm like "okay then, we not going to fornicate and.....(stops me before i finish talking) "HELL NO!!! I'm a believer not a stick"! -Confused! Honey, you better make up your mind on who you serving. You either serving JESUS or your flesh. Nobody said following Jesus is chessecake. You have to die to your flesh everyday. (read Philippians chapter 1).
I'm still learning new things everyday. I want to make Him proud. So i try everyday to put my selfish flesh to rest and walk in the Spirit. So help me God. Amen.
Don't ever think you can "fix up yourself a man". Trust me honey, i tried it and failed. God has a BETTER plan for you. When your Adam wakes up, you will know. Right now he's still sleeping and God is still carrying out the operation (i.e working on him, to be ALL He wants him to be). While you still waiting, what are you doing to get yourself ready? Shopping online or checking out wedding gowns and couples? Sweetheart, you can't get ready that way. Trust me! I tried....... That will just keep bringing the desire of settling down with 'who who' never minding if he/she is God's BEST for you. "I will make a helper suitable for him" (Genesis 2:18). Not 'compatible', not 'managing' not 'quickly'. Not all that.
So rather than rushing God, try to sit and ask Him to show you those areas you need to work on (inside and outside). He has been showing, am still working. Rather than Google up wedding rings and checking out dream proposals, lol (which i was a freak at) this is what i do instead:
1. I rather sit and read up Christian books about 'how to be led by the Spirit of God' 'in pursuit of vision' 'relationship books' 'marriage books' (it's not too early or late to start reading them).
2. Study my Bible daily. "Seek Ye first and EVERY/ALL other things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33). Not 'somethings' or 'most things' but EVERY! YES! Including your God given spouse. So i rest at His feet daily. Trust me, reading the Bible ain't a waste of time. You may think nothing is working/changing. But your wrong. You see yourself no longer doing the things you did before. You see yourself loving more, caring more, forgiving more, helping more, praying more, acting like Jesus more, etc. I can testify. It's AMAZING!
3. Worshiping and praising. Ain't no day passing by without me singing and dancing. There is nothing more than worshiping. When those lonely thoughts want to creep in, i push them back out with worship (cause no devil gon frustrate me) and it's an excellent feeling. (right now i feel like dropping this to go worship, Welp!).
4. Continuous fellowship. Your asking, "Joann what has this got to do here?" -EVERYTHING- My pastor said, "People sleep and do not wake up because of their Spiritual battery is dead. The devil just captures them carelessly". (Psalm 132). Keep continuous fellowship. Let God's time tickle you. And David said, 'I was GLAD when they said, let us go to the house of the Lord'. (Psalm 122:1). Be glad. Get involved. Don't just be a Sunday christian. There are tons of blessings in kingdom service. He wants you to serve in His house. Attend bible study, special services, home cell fellowship, etc. At this stage in my life i see myself so busy with God's work i'm already given a nickname.But i don't care because it keeps me busy, i get to make people cheerful, i get to keep myself busy so i won't create room for idle thoughts. You know an idle man is the devil's workshop.
5. Take care of my body. "What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?" (1 Corinthians 6:19). You cannot be working on your inside and your outside screams... 'RUN AWAY FROM ME!!!' Check yourself, do you take GOOD care of God's temple? Your just a caretaker, not the owner. What you do with/to it matters. Rather than drawing on it, injecting it, cutting it, inhaling fumes, killing your liver and blacking your lungs or dressings inappropriately, there are far more better things to do. How about eating healthy? Working out 3 times a week? Dressing decently and modestly? Watching what you put in your mouth? I take care of my body in such a way that the Holy Spirit will be proud dwelling in me. From my hair down to my toe nails. No one wants a dirty spouse. Also be mindful of where you take God's temple to or what you hear or watch. All those club houses isn't for everyone. All those raw musics isn't for you either or those things you watch. Even the friends you keep will either make you or mare you. Right now, i tend to have less friends than i did when i was still in the world. And as the year goes by, they drop off, because i need people "going my way" not "dragging me away".
6. Spend time developing yourself. -Of course i still have fun. There is never a dull moment since I've been saved. I spend time with my few "going my way" friends, see movies, have dinner, go to the spa, cooking up new meals, learning new stuffs and activities etc. Being saved isn't boring at all, but A.W.E.S.O.M.E cause you get to have fun and not feel bad about it.
This is just a few of what i do that do not make me throw myself a pity party of loneliness, and you can try it too. Just be led by the Spirit of God. And when your Adam wakes up, girlllll.... you gonna know! You may say,"i'm getting old, time is running out, my family is putting so much pressure on me", etc. Well, if you ask me, it's better to let GOD WRITE YOUR LOVE STORY than rushing into something you will be filling a divorce form 3 month later. God forbid! Your spouse hasn't shown up yet because God is still working on both of you. Rather than rushing and settling for less, sit down and ask God what you lacking and ask Him to FIX YOU UP.
I got into a marriage covenant with my Darling Jesus after reading a book written by my father in the Lord, titled 'ALL YOU NEED TO HAVE ALL YOUR NEEDS MET -Bishop David Oyedepo'. Since then my life has been automatically transformed for the BEST. I never go a day lacking anything cause i know who am married to, and He has always proved Himself as the BEST hubby ever! Am rejoicing. I will love you to enjoy this same marital bliss. Just be sold out to Him. Will give you the details of how i did it and what am enjoying some other time. But for now, keep your head held high. GOD got this one! LET HIM!
I love you but JESUS loves you MORE!!!
Joann Ene-Ita
Awesome. I particularly like your perspective on making the best use of the waiting period. It brings to mind the parable of the ten virgins. While a faction decided to rest on their oars - possibly fantasing about the coming of the groom and the paparazzi and glitz of the ceremony, another faction spent that period in deep introspection, re-evaluating their lives in the mirror of God's word and fixing up the inadequacies in preparedness for the groom. In same fashion, the waiting period is a time for total surrendering to the potter for remoulding and reshaping so like Naaman, we can come out of the waters of Jordan refreshed and whole. Just like the parable of the talent, you can wait 'amiss' and lose your inheritance if you do not continually seek to grow in the knowledge and wisdom of God. God will not do for man what man can do for himself.
ReplyDeleteIndeed you are right.God bless you so much.
DeletePraise God for the wisdom I've received in this post. The marriage certificate is beautiful and should exist even for engaged and married couples cus there is no marriage in heaven, the most important marriage is that with Christ. Dying to self continues even while engaged, during pre marital counseling and preparing for marriage. That period is when what's inside shows the most and can make or break the couple. Unholy Fantasies and making out empty out rather than fill the relationship. Before saying I do I'm enjoying my "single with Jesus period". Have never been closer to my Father than now and I yearn for more. Honestly there is no worldly satisfaction more than the in filling of the Holy Spirit. Sis May Your hands be blessed to write more posts for salvation of mankind in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteAmennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn sis..
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